summons up in you. Heavy, sticky, troublesome, agitating, irritability of the worst kind! Bottom line; Burdens bother you and you don’t want to be bothered. What can you do about burdens? Are they necessary? And, do you have to put up with them in you life? No. Burdens are the by-products of not being genuine or sincere in your personal interactions. You have made requests that obligated the other in some cumbersome way. You had elaborate expectations, and you tried to inflict a sense of responsibility where none was warranted. Also, as a reminder friendly, IF you ever do anything for a person when you really don’t want to, you are creating an unwholesome situation for the both of you. There is never a time when you should feel obligated to perform for another. Never. If it’s not ‘natural and convenient’, don’t do it. You will end up resenting the action and the other will never forgive you for it.
Rule number one in the process of eliminating burdens. Never ask for or receive favors. Who do you think you are? When someone does you a so-called favor, he is asking to be put in a special place in your life. You inevitably end up resenting this position, place and person. When you solicit a favor, you are asking to be put in that same special position. No, thank you. Decline. Burdens can be totally eliminated, IF you carry your own emotional bags without the aid of another. Rule number 2: Stop placating! Don’t say yes when you mean no simply for fear of looking ‘bad’ in the eyes of others. Bear up to your uncomfortable and unfamiliar tests of authenticity boldly and joyfully. You will feel so much better about yourself and so will the other appreciate your candidness.
Self-sacrificing duty is a disposable egoistic term