we give advice in the form of ‘you should?’
Allow others the right to reject advice.
If someone judges by use of the word ‘should’, and it invokes feelings of resistance in the form of anger, defense or discomfort, then something may be amiss. Do you suppose another approach is appropriate? Might you allow people the right to reject what you have to present? If so, ‘should’ does not work. Since it is the purpose of a judge to weigh both sides so that they are equally balanced, can you, likewise, apply the same principle to yourself?
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