How do i have sex with a virgin for the first time?

just be real careful with her and don’t go to hard. btw- i wish i had a boyfriend like you… that’s really sweet.

unfortunatly, there is no real way to make it not hurt. you are what makes the “cherry” pop. you can try manual stimulation. but even then, the finger is much smaller then the real deal. trust me. the pain will pass, just keep her relaxed. talk sweet to her, let HER BE IN CHARGE (really does help in this situation) and after the first 2 to 3 times the pain will pass and all will be well. jsut let her run the show for the first few times. jsut don’t push, and force things on her, or yourself. and most of all. BREATH. passing out from the first try, is not fun at all.
also make it seem like its not all about sex
First of all, make sure she’s ready for her first time. Many women will say they are, and yet… they aren’t. They feel pressure from their friends, from society, perhaps even from you.
Have a discussion with her about this and make sure that she’s ready. It’s a big decision for most women and you will forever be associated with that first time. You don’t want to be remembered as the guy who coerced her into doing something she didn’t really want to do, right?
Once you are sure she’s really ready, think about creating a special environment. Can you set up a romantic evening for the two of you? Let’s think about some things that most women would find romantic and sexy.

• A hotel room, complete with rose petals on the bed.
• Your, or her, bedroom outfitted with soft candles, even softer lighting, and beautiful sheets.
• Does she like lingerie? Maybe you could buy her some pretty lingerie (and by “pretty” we mean tasteful; this isn’t about your own porn fantasy my friend).

Let her set the pace. That is, if she wants to have a prolonged foreplay session, that’s fine. If she wants to engage in some oral play, that’s OK too. If she is anxious to just get down to it, have intercourse, and get it over with, that’s fine as well. Let her tell you what’s going to work for her.
Let’s consider some things in detail.

• You can use your fingers to make sure she’s fully aroused. If she tells you she’s ready for intercourse, but she’s not fully ready yet, it will hurt. Make sure you do everything you can to ensure that she’s ready.
• Caress all of her. Make her feel like a woman, by caressing her breasts, her face, stroking her hair and kissing her everywhere.
• Tell her she’s beautiful.
• Let her know that you’re having a good time, too. If it’s all about her, she’ll feel a certain pressure to ‘be ready’. This is about the two of you, right? You can help her get more aroused by letting her know that you’re having a good time too.
• When you do engage in intercourse, go slowly and continue to caress and kiss her. If she’s properly and fully aroused, she might be so ready for you that she won’t even realize you are entering her. If not, your tenderness will help ease any pain or discomfort away.
Afterwards, here are some things to remember.
• Lay with her for as long as she wants. She needs to feel close to you right now.
• A little blood is normal. Don’t freak out about it and reassure her that it’s totally normal.
• Call her the next day and tell her you had a good – no, a great! – time, that you think she’s beautiful, that you can’t wait to see her again… anything that won’t make her think it’s all about sex.
good luck:)

you are very thoughtful! just don’t rush and take care of her. first time… it is important

This is going to sound graphic, but I am quite serious. If you are comfortable with it, and she is too, go down on her for a bit first. That way she will be wet even if she is a bit nervous and so not producing her own lubrication. Nothing is more uncomfortable to a girl than ‘dry’ sex, and being nervous can cause just that. Barring that, use a lot of lube, but nothing thats supposed to be warming or tingly, as they can cause irritation, again, not how you want her to remember her first time. Obviously, use protection, and ask her if she would like to be on top, as it would give her more control over the depth and speed of the penetration.
Cheers!

When I lost mine he was your age. We had waited until we had been dating about 5 months, by the we were both ready. I’m glad you two can talk about it, that really made it easier for us when the time came.

Okay… so…
No girl wants to lose her virginity in the backseat of a car. Do it when you have a familiar bed and when you know that you have a lot of time to be alone. Don’t plan it out too much. While the two of you are kissing, ask her if she is ready. She will know what you are talking about. If she says yes, keep kissing her the whole time. Be sure to wear a condom. If it is your first time, it might feel sorta awkward to put one on in front of her. My boyfriend just excused himself to put it on and i totally understood. Keep kissing her. Whatever you do, don’t try to make her go on top. Be in charge, but be gentle and passionate, and not cheesy.

I promise you it won’t hurt her that badly. Just go slow. A little bit, then kiss her on her forehead, and ask if you can keep going. Kiss her again. Ask her if she is doing alright occasionally. You don’t need to be in a full out make-out session, but keep your your lips close. It made me trust him and know that he was doing it for me.

When you are done… Kiss her on the forehead and tell her how beautiful she is… cheesy I know, but you might save her from crying after… a common reaction. She will want to be close to you after… so be open to “cuddle.”

Well, good luck, hun.
Make it something for her to never forget.