about sexual relationships is the balance of power that comes with it. The ease at which you can walk away from a situation will determine the power you have in that situation. I’m not suggesting you should be power hungry, or that their shouldn’t be a balance of power, but it’s a matter of fact that the person least invested in something has the most power, whether it be a relationship, sex, or even a business deal.
Recognize that by being over-zealous, you give your power away and allow her to set the terms of the relationship, and yes gentlemen, that includes the sexual part as well.
As an attractive man, you should always be able to lead and set the pace. Nine times out of ten, women will not make the first move. They expect you to be a man and take charge in this area of the relationship. It’s sexy, it displays confidence, and most of all, it alleviates a woman from feeling responsible. Allow her to swept up in your wake of strong sexual energy!
“Two steps forward, one step back”
– David DeAngelo
If you’re looking to spice things up, always advance two steps forward and one step back. Kiss her softly on the lips and then pull back, look her in the eyes and coyly ask her, “What are you doing to me?” Then go back to kissing her. As soon as you see she is enjoying something just a little too much, take it away. This is one way to progress sexually, but again, this something that should be felt out naturally. What this slow escalation process will do is build tension so that when you both do finally get that release, it will be all that much better.
Intermittence -> Uncertainty -> More Excitement -> Increased desire