accept what we apparently can’t change;then, try to make the best of it. But, deep down we KNOW we can’t go on like this. It’s as if we are living someone else’s life. “It just aint supposed to be this way.”
So what are we to do? If we truly want to find some sense of ideal resolve (peace and happiness), what measures do we need to take? The first objective: stop battling! Refuse to be at odds with yourself. No matter how definitive ‘in the right’ you believe your position to be, you must empty your mind of any need for a satisfying result. {That definitely includes your having an idea about how Love and Romance “should be.”} Stop comparing! You must accept your portion of the unpleasant situation as a determined insistent stubborn refusal to move beyond left over emotional residue. This infiltrated emotional turmoil is preventing you from seeing what you are actually experiencing and how you are actually contributing to it. Meaning: you slip into an overt unawareness [you go blank] which places you in an unapproachable position. Foreboding no less, not so good for the home team. You are so caught up in unproductive unflattering memories of the previous accumulated arguments, fights, disagreements, shouting matches and silent fumes that you are poisoning your mind and aging your body. You are literally ‘dumping shit’ on your head without any need of participation from the other.
Because your mind is so clouded by resentful preconceived ideas and notions, you are not present in the room at any time when you face your partner. When encountering him/her you are flooded by overwhelming debilitating ancient emotions. Clouding your vision with distorted percpetions. You must bring yourself to the present! If the