relationship/involvement means anything to you, you absolutely can not continue to slip into the same old ways and patterns of relating. {Knowing what’s going to be said before it is spoken.} BORING!!!
Get out of the past and get into now. N.O.W.: New Operation Warranted. {A NEW way of communicating} It requires of you to be present in, for, with the other. In other words, you have to “show up for you current life situation in all its unfavorable features.” No more escapist strategies and tendencies. But, you may ask, “Why do “I” have to be the one?” Because, IF it matters to you, THEN, it matters. It’s as simple as that. There’s a stark difference in sexual communicating techniques but you must experience the validity of your interaction in the negotiating encounter before it can become real. No amount of talking will make something out of nothing. {Well, technically, there is but that’s another subject.} Unless you are willing and able to let go of the extenuating factors involved in volatile situation, {with all its derisive tentacles} you will continue to breed a devouring consuming relationship monster. Which, incidentally, you don’t have the strength, ingenuity or defenses to combat. [Nothing’s worth that.] Talk about stress! You’re bringing new meaning to the word. It’s really difficult staying present; not letting your mind run into yesterday, last week, month, year, or even 10 years ago. But, let’s face it. There comes that time in everyone’s life when YOU must move on. Get over it. You must let go of your wounded pride. IF that requires of you to be wrong even when you KNOW you’re right, be wrong a 1000 times over.
It’s you that the MATTER is consuming, not the other. When are you going