if you love each other what is wrong with sex?

Love is a growth process, and it takes time to distinguish love from an infatuation. Lust will cause many to fall short and not wait until marriage. Nevertheless, if you have fallen for a girl and plan on marrying her and you move in or already live together then the following information pertains to you.

The Laws in the U.S. vary from state to state but in Texas if you have been living with someone and declare marriage in front of witnesses, by filing a joint return, or simply by making major purchases of property together and of course by having babies then you are considered to be married by common-law. So even though there was no paper signed you are considered to be common-law married and therefore are liable to the same laws that govern common marriages.

Please read the following;
Common-law marriage is permitted in a minority of states. To be defined as a common-law marriage within the states listed below, the two parties must: agree that they are married, live together, and hold themselves out as husband and wife. Common-law marriage is generally a non-ceremonial relationship that requires “a positive mutual agreement, permanent and exclusive of all others, to enter into a marriage relationship, cohabitation sufficient to warrant a fulfillment of necessary relationship of man and wife, and an assumption of marital duties and obligations.” Black’s Law Dictionary 277 (6th ed. 1990).

Before modern domestic relations statutes, couples became married by a variety of means that developed from custom. These became the elements of a “common-law marriage,” or a marriage that arose by operation of law through the parties’ conduct, instead of through a ceremony. In many ways, the theory of common-law marriage is one of estoppel – meaning that parties who have told the world they are married should not be allowed to claim that they are not married in a dispute between the parties themselves.

Currently, only 10 states (Alabama, Colorado, Kansas, Rhode Island, South Carolina, Iowa, Montana, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania and Texas) and the District of Columbia recognize common-law marriages contracted within their borders. In addition, five states have “grandfathered” common law marriage, allowing those established before a certain date to be recognized. New Hampshire recognizes common law marriage only for purposes of probate, and Utah recognizes common law marriages only if they have been validated by a court or administrative order.

There is no such thing as common-law divorce. Once parties are married, regardless of the manner in which their marriage is contracted, they are married and can only be divorced by appropriate means in the place where the divorce is granted. That means, in all 50 states, only by a court order.

Fornication is sin, but so is thinking about having sex with someone, in God’s eyes they are one and the same, only commiting the actual physical activity could have detrimental consequences. If your intentions are not pure, well God knows your heart and he will not allow his children to continue in sin. So if you have been struggling with this then pray and ask God to forgive you and to help you to be strong and resist. If you really love this lady then marry her. I suggest you wait; give yourself time to test if you are really serious about this lady. If you are already living together and you are in one of the states mentioned above and consider yourself to be married then you are just that. Confess your love for her and devote yourself to her for the rest of your life.
(Matthew 19 4-6)Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, 5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? 6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.