Question by Milo: LGBT- what do you think about no sex until marriage?
I am a gay guy (24) who just got married to my partner. He was a virgin until our wedding night and he always keeps saying it was the most magical day in his life. I had had 2 partners before him but I really wish that I had saved myself for him. He is Christian and I am Agnostic, but we still get on very well. My partner was saving himself for marriage because of his religion and because he wanted it to be special.
What do you gay and lesbians think about “no sex until marriage”? Would you try it out if you could? Would you marry a virgin?
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Answer by rnbw?roxy
if i waited for no sex till marriage, i would be waiting forever..i live in texas.HA!
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I am a virgin I hope someone would marry me =) lol
stupid.
I am hoping to do just that… kinda sucks never knowing where we will be able to be married in the future, seeing as it keeps going back and forth between legal and illegal… really REALLY sucks… congratulations to you though…
I have no problem against it.
If I could I would try it.
And I would marry a virgin…
most people do it anyway so i really think nothing of it
I didn’t wait for marriage because when there’s no same-sex marriage…there’s little point. At least in my state. I do however definitely see the value in not sleeping with everyone in sight and keeping it special between you and a person you love. That’s just my personal belief and I have no problem with people who want to bone everyone they can (lol). I probably wouldn’t date someone like that…and they probably wouldn’t date me.
Waiting because your religion tells you to is a little silly, but waiting for someone you love is romantic <3 Reason makes all the difference to me.
I am not a believer in waiting for marriage, at least for myself. If others want to wait, more power to them.
Could I marry a virgin? Honestly, no. I am too old to teach someone how to do things and I’m too old to go through the whole experimental phase with someone, etc. I just want to get down and dirty with someone who knows what they are doing. Not only that, but I’d feel sort of weird about being someone’s first and only. I’m not sure why.
Its pretty cool thing plus+ means you wont have any stds
well, my bf said that he’d make me wait if we could get married in this state, and if we could, i would wait with him, he was a virgin b4 me, but since i can’t, idk, i might, i would wait for my bf
I’d love to wait til I’m married, but with the stupid dadt in effect, that’s probably not going to happen.
I’m sure I could if I wanted too. It’d be nice to marry a virgin as well, but that I wouldn’t really care about.
i think …
that if you haven’t at least kissed someone of the same sex, then you shouldn’t consider yourself gay or bi until you have.
therefore, i think the no sex before marriage thing is kindof dumb…
but, i respect people’s beliefs. 🙂
nah i don’t think i could marry a virgin really.
but idk.
I lost belief in that 5 years ago..
Sex is good for you…very good…it’s proven
Why delay something that’s very good for you?
There’s no point beating yourself (pun intended) on the head (more puns!) over your own past – quite tame, really – when you compare it with your partner’s. Precisely because it’s in the PAST – and he has accepted you, and that part of your life, as the sum total of everything he wanted to marry. Never second guess yourself and feel bad for things you did before you met him.
And regarding “marriage”…think about this: “They” (the homophobes) want to keep us from marrying – in fact, where I live (Manila, Philippines), it is unheard of to see 2 men get “married”, what with 90% of the population being Catholic – and if that holds, then gay people aren’t supposed to have sex at all?!? That would be a sad (and frisky) world!
It’s similar to those people who say they don;t hate gay people – as long as they don;t act on their being gay, a.k.a. have sex/make love to someone at all. In other words, we are “accepted” as celibates…Hogwash! What baloney!
Why do I need their approval to see who I wish to see socially and (yet another pun) biblically? Sex is usually seen as physical, but more often than not, it is a joining of two bodies, minds and spirits. In fact, some people think it is the closest we’ll ever have to experiencing God. I don’t mean to belittle nor disrespect anyone’s religion by quoting that, but the euphoria, headiness, joy, excitement and plethora of emotions that come with engaging in sex can give anyone a tremendous high!
So, to your original question, absolutely NO!
Congrats to you both. Marriage isn’t an option in so many locations. I don’t think that fact should give license for promiscuity. However, for the sake of sanity, I blew off that rule long ago. I have no regrets,
No, I wouldn’t. Sexual compatibility is an important part in marriage or any loving relationship. What if you are sexually incompatible. I think that is harder for gays then for str8s. There are too many variables.