Question by Greg the traditional Catholic: Why don’t people wait until marriage before having sex in this day and age?
Traditionally wedding dresses are in the color of white, which symbolizes purity. Though, how many people really are virgins when they’re at the altar taking their vows? It seems that for the past half century, people have sex before marriage and have out of wedlock children. What has happened to the sacred act of sex between a man and woman joined together in the bond of matrimony?
Best answer:
Answer by Vader Was Framed
You dont buy a car without a test drive right?
Let me guess your some jesus freak who thinks omg sex before marriage your all going to hell.
you live your life and let me live mine
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Marriage doesn’t mean as much anymore… And only half of all marriages even last. Besides, who wants to buy a car without test driving it first?
you kno what it is, I agree, not to many people are teaching their kids to stay pure adn wait, to buse teaching how to stay safe, if you put the children on some knowlege to know that it isnt what you think adn will mess you up, and prove to them, maybe they will wait, but its hard trying to teach kids to wait when all the parents out here are single parent housholds, many kids by many partners, we gotta practice what we preach.
hey, i’m not like that…….your question gives me a bad rap
it simple we at the age of sex before marriage, living together, friend with benefits, etc. that the
generation that we are in the all about me stage. me personally from the old school believe in
the traditional ways,,
you have been indoctrinated to believe that is the way it should be. People can have sex but responsible sex, i am fine with that but don’t be screwing your life over it (babies out of wedlock) cause then we all have to pay for those mistakes. (welfare, etc)
maturity comes at a older age that is why we encourage kids and young ones to NOT have sex or to protect themselves. Marriage is NOT an indication of maturity or that you can be responsible for babies.
If you are NOT married but you happen to be a CEO of a company and can afford kids then fine, but most likely young ones aren’t self supportive so that is why we try to discourage them cause then is the adults -USUALLY PARENTS – and the community who face the responsibility of irresponsible kids.
People are in a instant gratification mode. They have lost the ideal that waiting is better, and think, ‘I better see if this person does it for me, before I buy the cow.”
I can’t judge, I didn’t wait. BUT I so so so regret that decision.
I can see how it can solve tons of social issues.
If everyone or at the very least most everyone waited:
Teen pregnancy would diminish, and so would single parents, and probably government assistance. More children would be brought into loving stable homes and thus be better people creating a better world. Men would not be as objective towards women, and learn to love them for them, not what they can do for you…STD’s would also diminish. I also feel stronger relationships would be born because of the dedicationa dn discipline required to wait for marriage, people would spend more time considering if this was really the right person…So divorce would probably also diminish.
It really is a bigger problem than just pre-marital sex though…it is over sexual media, and lust, etc. It is all connected. Morals, virtue, chivalry and femininity….It is all a lost art.
I wish I had waited. I see now what a wonderful gift that would have been to give and recieve from one another on our marriage night. What an accomplishment it would have been to know that I stayed pure. It is probably one of the biggest regrets I have.
I really wish we would return to a time of nobel virtues, and not this self serving world that we live in now. I hope I raise my children to make better decision than I, and that they can see and learn from my mistakes.
waiting till marriage is an “un cool” thing to do now. I know, I find this incredibly ridiculous.
Half of marriages end in divorce. Out of that percent, about a fourth end in divorce because of sex. The man or woman cheats because they are unsatisfied due to not know or not wanting to give what their partner wants. I would say you need know what you are getting into before you decide to commit your life to someone. My personal opinion people don’t need to get married unless they have had sex with and have lived with someone for a minimum of a year. You don’t really know someone until you’vee lived with them.
I’d like to add to the purity lady, it doesn’t matter how much you teach your kids to wait if they want to they are going to do it. My parents always told me; don’t smoke, don’t drink, don’t have sex… I did it anyways. My dad would have beat me until my back end was raw if he found out but I didn’t care! It’s people that don’t teach their kids safety that get a grandchild when their child isn’t out of high school. I’m sorry if this offend anyone but this is something I strong agree with since I come from a state that has abstinence only education and over half my graduating class was pregnant as they received their diploma.
lack of self discipline or foresight.
I waited and so did my wife.
A white dress does not symbolize purity…it started as a symbol of wealth. Sex out of wedlock has been happening all along, it just nowadays we are more open to talk about it. People do or don’t save themselves for their own reason…who are we to judge what people choose to do.
people here are right many struggle or get divorced because they’re is a huge lack in the sex dept. so why risk it and be unhappy, waste your time and end up divorced.
For me I know this sounds ‘bad’ but, men ! My dad was not in my life, he was self centered and selfish. And the boys at school were mean jerks and if you were not easy in some way they called you names etc……I blame men.
We waited. But I didn’t wear a white dress because it’s blindingly ugly.
two things
1- they are not christians OR don’t believe in a higher power to wait for someting so special..
OR
2-they don’t care and make excuses like they need to see if the sexual part of the relationship to knwo if it will work which is a buntch of bull! You can tell if there’s anything sexual before-do you think about thm? do you hold hands and enjoy kissing?
being virgin is the best thing where as others think you need to be experienced to please your spoiuse but thats not true at all it is much better to marry a virgin (for BOTH) and learn and grow together then to have someone already experienced because then they’ve obviously have been with way too many.
I’m like you i didn’t watch porn or ANYTHING because I wanted to be as pure as possible because I knew at SOME pooint in my life I might marrya nd wanted to be ready. I find some guys who say they knew they would marry but not for a LONG time andwanted to get around or something….to me they are not worthy because if you know at some point you want to marry then you should prepare. Its not fair when one spouse is a virgin or pure while the other is not then they say don’t jugde by the past. I wanted aspouse to be equal to me and thats what I got!
EDIT another problem is the people…if a girl has sex she’s considered a whore or slut but if a guy does he’s considered a man.
People are not cars nor anytype of object-“test driving” them is useing them because you show no respect for them.
Because this is the age of “instant gratification” and that’s what we are teaching our kids. We do it ourselves. You read in the papers and magazines and you see it on tv about how you “deserve” this and “deserve” that, and that’s what we are learning.
Also, marriage isn’t such a big deal anymore, in case you haven’t noticed. People have sex, babies, live together, and then MAYBE they might think about marriage,,,too bad.
its the feel good mentality…
but maybe it weeds out who is really best for you? maybe …
i would bet this is is not a new revelation…the younger generation did not invent sex before or after marriage