After all, if we had had this kind of adrenalin rush when we had been younger, by now we’d be jaded! In our youth, we are in a hurry to achieve an orgasm, but in mid-life, it is drawn-out pleasure that we want.
By mid-life you know what turns your partner on and how to please him or her. This is because we are sexually smarter in our 40s than we were in our early 20s. According to Ted Mcllyenna PhD, MD, Sexologist and Director of the Institute for the Advanced Study of Sexuality in San Francisco, California, partners can take their sex lives to even higher levels by understanding that they can constantly discover new ways to turn each other on. They can do this by discussing their sexual wants, needs and fantasies.
When older people from a range of backgrounds were asked what they wished they had known about sex when they had been younger, they had different things to say but they agreed on one thing. This was that being good in bed and really enjoying sex is all about being at ease with your partner and yourself so that both feel relaxed and confident.
“Be honest about what you want and learn to ask for it,” said Stephen who is retired. He added, “Devote more time to sex by going to bed early and then spend the night kissing, massaging, stroking and cuddling each other!” “Girls don’t bite unless you want – them to,” said Mike, who is an entrepreneur. He went on to say that sex is very fulfilling when we concentrate on giving bliss to each other without worrying about our own performance.
SEX IS A BLAST
“Sex is a blast both for your brain and your body when you are creative and you eagerly explore your fantasies,” said Abie, a journalist. Julie said, “Don’t