sex being the most fun you can have with or without your clothes on and topics like oral sex and masturbation weren’t just hush-hush, they weren’t even mentioned. The most common misconception about masturbation was that it made boys go blind; ensuring that the bespectacled class nerd was ridiculed mercilessly.
Understanding one’s own body is the key to breaking down socially imposed sexual bashfulness, claims sex therapist Marlene Wasserman – aka Dr Eve on popular radio talk shows. Author of Pillowbook, Dr Eve recommends that girls masturbate every day giving new meaning to the phrase: “I got it all this morning”. Apparently there’s no getting around it, only by regularly paddling the pink canoe will you come to grips with the buttons that turn you on.
There are many how-to books on the market but says Dr Eve; all women’s bodies are different and when it comes to learning about orgasms, there is no one-size-fits-all. She adds: “Books that recommend pushing a bit here and tweaking a little there harm women.” Many may try these techniques but if they fail, the reader believes there’s something wrong with herself, not that there’s something wrong with the book.
Instead Dr Eve advises learning about one’s sexuality as a process rather than some handy techniques, and the starting point is to be as familiar with the contours of your vulva as we are with the lines on our face.
Just the idea of squatting naked on a mirror produces some extraordinary reactions in women. From reluctance to revulsion, the lack of enthusiasm for becoming familiar with one’s own vagina calls attention to the deep-rooted conditioning underpinning sexual shyness or