get into the different ways that husbands and wives attend to their various responsibilities in worship, notice that both husbands and wives are described as praying and prophesying. This has nothing to do with worship leadership, but everything to do with worship participation. Paul was not discussing worship leadership responsibilities, but family or common responsibilities in worship. From the earliest times Christians prayed and sang together. That’s what Paul is talking about.
To see the ordinary way that this played out requires us to understand what Paul meant by “prophesies.” The Greek word can mean to foretell events and to divine, as in using divine powers to know things not knowable through the ordinary senses. Of course, Christians know God through the power and presence of the Holy Spirit through regeneration. And though Jesus spoke things that are difficult to understand, He did not teach mystical prognostication as was practiced in pagan religions. Though there are mysterious things about Christianity, Christianity is not a mystery religion. Rather, in the context that Paul uses this word, it is better understood to mean “speaking under inspiration.” Again, we are not talking about some magical or mysterious thing, though the process remains mysterious because we don’t know how it happens, other than attributing it to the power and presence of the Holy Spirit.
I want to suggest that Paul was talking about the ordinary things of worship — praying, singing, reading scripture, etc. All of these things occur under the influence and inspiration of the Holy Spirit, and both men and women do them. Both men and women are to live and worship under the influence of the Holy Spirit, and both will at times speak under the influence