resulting suffering leads to most of us to become “disabled emotional beings in our adulthood.” Anton maintains that what men are really after, however cloaked it is in the pursuit of material wealth or status, is feminine energy. “Women are the most high commodity and deserve to get everything they want from men. This is often a huge pill for women to swallow. Even with all my education and knowledge, I am always open for a woman to train and teach me how I can make her the happiest woman on the planet. I honestly have no clue, unless she teaches me.”
Across town on the Upper East Side, Cuddle Party goes one step further than Sexy Spirits and takes ALL the sex out of sex. Part structured workshop, part playful party, Cuddle Party offers specific tools and exercises to examine assumptions about affection, boundaries, communication and intimacy, in a drug and alcohol free environment. Marcia, one of the founders says, “Otherwise well-adjusted people are missing any sort of touch in their world so the only way to experience to be close to others is through sex. But what people are really wanting from sex, they aren’t really getting, so they eat, shop, do drugs, etc. to get their needs met, but those all come with side effects. As one participant put it, ‘I thought I needed a hook up, but I just needed a hug.'”
Marcia maintains that with so much misunderstanding of sex, people are freaked out by intimacy. Intimacy requires vulnerability, and it can be hard to open ourselves up when we don’t have tools or the perspective to make it safe. Cuddle Party offers a safe space for increasing awareness, which means more choice and more freedom and it is a fun way to get enlightened about what is stopping us from experiencing