haven’t had sex for awhile then it may be better to build up slowly to get back into the groove. Instead of trying to go from a standing start to racing speed, ease your way back into the physical by touching when you can and by being considerate with each other. Touch when you talk. Stop to kiss when you walk past each other in the hallway. Trail your finger along their shoulder as they sit reading a magazine. Snuggle on the couch in front of your favorite movie.
4. Be sensual
Give your partner a peppermint foot bath when they get home from a busy day. Massage their hands, scalp, back – wherever takes your fancy (if you don’t know how to massage, don’t think about it, just do what feels good). Or try a lighter touch by using a feather or silk scarve to trail along the length of your partner.
5. Be encouraging when your partner does something you like
Even if you’ve been together a long time your partner doesn’t always know what you like and even if they do it doesn’t hurt to tell them once in awhile. Say what you like and why you like it, if they have more information you never know what they may come up with to please you.
6. Read your partner an erotic bedtime story
The mind is crucial in any attempt to resuscitate your sex life. It needs to be turned on first and the body will follow. There is some great erotic fiction around or you could try Nancy Friday for stories about other people’s sexual fantasies.
7. Have fun
When was the last time you laughed together? Put on your favourite track and dance. Or buy the music that was popular when you first got together and play that for a trip down memory lane over dinner.