mornings, (3) the rich taste of Swiss chocolate, (4) the warm breath fondling her neck as “SEXY”.
For guys, these are whacked. “What’s with the hunchback and poetry thing?”
Moreover, men assume that women are highly visual like them, and guys still think their looks and external trappings are sufficient sexual come-ons. Starting today, when you think AROUSAL, go MULTISENSORY.
2 Physical vs. Psychological
Every time SEX is on the table, two elements come in focus there’s a PHYSICAL and a PSYCHOLOGICAL-EMOTIONAL side.
Physical refers to those luscious lips you long to kiss, that pair of erect nipples on a horny woman’s heaving bosom and that firm body you long to be on top of.
Psychological-Emotional can refer to many things. Since sex stands on an interaction and symbolic basis, the issues of self-esteem, self-control, self-concept, self- confidence, dominance and sexual hang-ups come in. Also included are the feelings for the person you’re with… or the lack thereof. It’s your perception of the relationship, is it a one-night stand or a long-term thing?
Men are naturally dialed to the physical. Huge breasts. Tight ass. And of course – a freak in bed, willing to try every silly trick in the book. Still, it doesn’t mean the psychological-emotional issues never come in.
Women dig the Psychological-Emotional, and for many, sex presupposes an emotional connection. Not necessarily the “I’m so gonna marry this guy” feeling, but at least a feeling of closeness and comfort.
3 Process VS. Goal
This is the 3rd crucial difference between men and women. Women ask, “What’s with men? They want sex so bad, but