exhale and bow down as your partner rolls and relaxes on your back. Inhale and as you exhale reverse positions, with the partner who had first rolled back now bowing down to the ground. This helps establish psychic connection at the same time as loosening up the back and hips.
4) Touching Fingertips
Touching Fingertips
Sit in Rock Pose on heels, knees touching. Raise arms up 60 degrees and touch fingertips. Stare into your partner’s eyes and project love. Hold for 3 minutes. Then inhale and hold the breath for 10 seconds and then exhale, holding the breath out for 10 seconds.
5) Venus Triangle (for ending arguments)
Venus Triangle
Get into triangle pose (downward facing dog) with the back of your heels touching the back of your partner’s. Keep your knees and elbows straight. Gaze through your legs and into your partner’s eyes. Hold the position.
One Caveat in the practice of Kundalini Yoga for Sacred Sex:
Do not be ruled by lust. If your energies are stuck in the second chakra, the pursuit of sex will rule your life, and the energy will be unable to move up the spine, allowing you to have truly expansive spiritual experiences. Consider using Sat Kriya or Frog Pose to channel stagnant energy up and out of the second chakra, so that you can be in control of your sexual energies, rather than having them be in control of you.
Sat Kriya
More resources on Kundalini Yoga for your sex life:
The Alchemy of Love Relationships
Authentic Relationships DVD
The Language of Love: Music for the Kama Sutra
Sexuality and Spirituality
The Joy of Partner Yoga
The Art of Making Sex Sacred
I am an American Sikh who studied with Yogi Bhajan for 30 years. I want to introduce you to a free e-book “Sikhism and Tantric Yoga”; a rare and out of print book by a Sikh scholar and historian which takes a critical look at Yogi Bhajan’s kundalini and tatric yoga systems. I discovered this book during my two years in India.“Sikhism and Tantric Yoga” has been a real eye-opener for me and makes complete sense when I think about the last thirty years of my life with Yogi Bhajan. Written by the esteemed Dr. Trilochan Singh, author of over twenty books on Sikh history and philosophy and lecturer at sixteen Universities, “Sikhism and Tantric Yoga”, describes the Sikh mystical path and is critical of Yogi Bhajan’s Tantra and Kundalini Yoga.
I have included here a sample of one chapter and the entire book can be downloaded for free at: Gurmukhyoga.com
What I learned in India about the Sikh Mystic Path
By Guru’s grace, while being detained by authorities in India, I lived for almost one year at the Golden Temple. After visiting Guru Sahib at the Harmandir Sahib everyday, singing the divine Gurbani Kirtan and contemplating God’s Name, the Guru showed me, how all the Yogic asanas I performed over the last 30 years were a complete waste of time and cannot match to 1 percent of the devotional contemplation on the Name of God.
“In contrast to Patanjali’s Yoga, and other schools of Hindu Yoga (Hatha, Tantric, Laya, Kundalini, etc.), the Sikh Gurus call Sikh mystic path, Brahm Yoga (the Yoga which does not use any yogic technique but concentrates on God and achieves Him through devotion and contemplation). It is also called Gurmukh Yoga (Yoga of the Enlightened), Sahajya Yoga (Natural Yoga based on spontaneous devotion and contemplation). The word Yoga is used just to mean union with God.” Dr. Trilochan Singh.
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Eight Steps of Sikh Mystical Path
…….Thus Guru Nanak clearly rejects the eight steps of spiritual progress as enunciated by Patanjali and replaces them with ethical and spiritual discipline of his own. The Sikh scriptures also clearly reject asanas (physical postures), pranayama (breath control), nauU-dhautz (cleaning the intestine with a piece of cloth inserted in the mouth and taken out through the anus). Those followers of Yogi Bhajan who frequently quote him as saying that the Scriptures of the Sikhs sanction all these Yoga practices, voice only his glaring ignorance of Sikh scriptures. I have not known any saint or seer in contemporary or past Sikh history who ever practiced these Yoga asanas. But all saints and all scholars have firmly called these and more so Tantric practices as directly opposed to Sikh doctrines. The following quotations, from Adi Granth make it clear that there is no place for Yoga practices in Sikhism:
If a man learns all yogic asanas of perfect adepts, If he controls and subdues his senses through such feats;
Even then impurity and dirt of his mind cannot be removed.
The filth of egoism will not depart from the heart. The human mind cannot be cleaned and made pure, By any yogic discipline and restraint. It can be made pure and controlled only by seeking, Through love the sanctuary of the true Enlightener.
Adi Granth, Guru Amar Das, Vadhans p 558
For me the only asana (posture) worthwhile is to fix steadfastly the mind on the Vision of God and let the heart and soul be absorbed in such a spiritual condition of transcendent revelation as to continuously reflect on His Presence and listen to the enchanting melody of Unstruck Music (Anhad Shabad)
(a) Savikalp Samadhi (ecstasy within the realm of consciousness): to be absorbed in the meaning and philosophical and mystical contents of the Divine Word is Savikalp a samadhi. (b) Nirvikalpa Samadhi (ecstasy of the Transcendent vision of God): to be absorbed in the Spirit and Essence of the Divine Word is Nirvikalpa samadhi.
If one does the nauli dhauti karma (of cleaning the intestine with a piece of cloth), and becomes adept in eighty-four asanas, and yogic exercises, he cannot attain any peace of mind by these yogic techniques. Let him do such Japa or Tapa through such techniques for years and years and wander about in search of perfection, he will not attain genuine inner peace even for a moment.
A. G. Guru Arjan, Majh, p 98